Mar 12, 2011

Anyone who has ever lived....

....has also sometimes gotten hurt. We all have our wounds. Some of us carry them with us visibly, physically or by behaviours and some of us have ours deeper inside, hidden and sometimes also forgotten or suppressed. They are emotional wounds. Wounds that take a lot of time to heal as you need not only to fully rebuild the trust that was once lost in others, but even more importantly, the trust lost in oneself. We ask ourselves too many questions! So many that instead if finding the answer by just looking deep inside ourselves, we waste time asking the question "Why?", which is probably one of the few questions you will never find the answer to, and looking at or into the lives of others, deceiving ourselves, thinking that "if I only have what he/she has - I'd be happy!". Nothing could be more wrong.

Everyone is unique, meaning what works for someone else, most likely doesn't work the same for you, and everyone carries their own happiness inside. I used to believe that if I could only find the "right one", I'd be happy. Thankfully, I have learned that it doesn't work this way....a very painful lesson, but one of the most important ones I have ever learned and hence, I'd like to share it with you. It is not fair to make someone else responsible for your happiness. Imagine the pressure of being someones life support system? ....and what happens if it is unplugged? You will be back to square one. You have to be able to make yourself happy and to be independent. I urge you to do yourself a favour by stopping to look to the outside world for happiness and start trusting yourself as the main provider.... When you manage to do this, you will see that it is much easier not only to love yourself, but to be able to really love someone else and to be loved.

"Who looks outside dreams. Who looks inside awakens." Carl Jung.


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